Why Every Couple Should Consider a First Look (Or Not)

As a wedding photographer in Aruba, I’ve had the chance to capture all kinds of moments—sunset vows on the beach, joyful first dances, and everything in between. But one of the most emotionally powerful moments I often witness is the first look.

If you’re in the middle of planning your wedding and wondering whether a first look is right for you, this post will walk you through the pros, the cons, and how to decide what’s best for your day.

What Is a First Look?

A first look is a private moment (usually before the ceremony) where the couple sees each other for the first time—just the two of you (plus your photographer, quietly capturing it all).

Pros of Doing a First Look

1. More Intimate Moments Together

On a traditional timeline, your first moment together is in front of everyone. A first look gives you space to take it all in privately. Many couples say it helps calm their nerves and gives them time to connect before the ceremony.

2. Better Use of Time for Photos

Doing a first look often means we can knock out couple portraits, bridal party shots, and sometimes even family photos before the ceremony. This gives you more time to enjoy cocktail hour or relax post-ceremony.

3. More Natural, Emotional Reactions

Because it’s a private moment, the reactions during a first look are often more candid and heartfelt. There are usually no distractions—just you and your partner.

4. Better Lighting (Depending on Your Ceremony Time)

In Aruba, golden hour is magical. If your ceremony is later in the day, doing a first look earlier means you can take advantage of that soft, glowing light for portraits.

Reasons You Might Skip the First Look

1. You Want to Keep It Traditional

Some couples dream of that aisle moment—that classic reaction when your partner sees you for the first time in front of all your guests. And that’s completely valid!

2. Your Timeline Doesn’t Allow It

If you’re planning a midday ceremony with minimal prep time beforehand, squeezing in a first look might add unnecessary stress.

3. You Prefer the Build-Up

Some people love the anticipation of not seeing each other all day. That emotional buildup can add to the magic of the ceremony moment.

Photographer Pro Tips for a Smooth First Look

• Choose a Private Location: Find a spot away from guests where you won’t be interrupted.

• Consider the Lighting: Opt for areas with soft, natural light for the best results.

• Allow Plenty of Time: Allocate at least 15-20 minutes for this moment to ensure it’s relaxed and unrushed.

• Bring Tissues: Emotions run high—be prepared!

• Trust Your Photographer: Your photographer will guide you through the moment seamlessly.

FAQ about First Looks

How long does a first look take?

Typically, 15-20 minutes is enough, but it can vary based on the couple’s wishes.

Will it ruin the ceremony moment?

Usually, no. Most couples find the ceremony equally emotional, with added intimacy from the first look.

Can family or friends watch our first look?

It’s entirely up to you. Some prefer total privacy, while others like close friends or family nearby.

What if we change our minds last minute?

Your day, your rules. A flexible photographer can adapt to your choice!

So, What’s Right for You?

There’s no wrong answer. Whether you choose a first look or keep it traditional, the important thing is that your choice feels true to you. As your photographer, I’ll ensure the moment—whatever you decide—is beautifully captured.

Need help deciding? I’m always happy to talk through what works best for your specific wedding timeline here in Aruba.

Ready to plan your perfect wedding timeline?

Let’s chat about your day and create a photography plan that fits your vision.📩 Contact me today to learn more about wedding photography in Aruba!